Cayenne Pepper Lemonade

Cayenne Pepper Lemonade

This cayenne pepper lemonade is great for migraines and it’s delicious too! 

It’s the perfect blend of tangy, sweet and spicy.

The active ingredient in cayenne peppers, capsaicin, is believed to bring headache relief by depleting Substance P, a neurotransmitter that helps send pain signals. Although some are still skeptical, a number of studies have tested the claim, and most have found evidence to support it. One prominent study on capsaicin for pain relief was published back in 1998 in the Clinical Journal of Pain. Their review of 33 previous studies found that capsaicin worked better than a placebo for cluster headaches.

Dr. Mercola 

Lemons help balance acidity and detoxify the body. Hydrating can also help reduce head pain. Cayenne is a natural blood thinner. This can reduce the intensity of the headache but consuming too much of the lemonade could have adverse effects if you’re on medications such as blood thinners. 

If you’re concerned about potential reactions, consult your doctor or pharmacist. 

Cayenne Pepper Lemonade


  • 1/8 – 1/2 teaspoon cayenne pepper 
  • 4 ounces honey
  • 12 ounces hot water
  • 8 ounces fresh lemon juice
  • Ice cubes and lemon slices for serving


In a heatproof 1-quart pitcher, combine the honey, cayenne pepper and hot water. Start with less pepper and add more depending on your tastes. Don’t stand directly over the pitcher. The cayenne will make your eyes water. Stir until the honey is dissolved. Stir in the lemon juice. I love pulp so I don’t strain the juice but make sure you don’t miss any seeds! Let cool for at least 10 minutes or cover and refrigerate until ready to serve. Pour into ice-filled glasses and garnish with lemon slices. All ingredients can be adjusted to personal taste. It’s a versatile recipe. Try experimenting by adding mint or blueberries to the mix! It’s also great frozen! Chill it then blend it with some ice and enjoy. 

Cayenne also boosts metabolism! Stay sexy Spoonies! 

Recovering: A Rant

Recovering: A Rant

I am now recovering from my oral surgery. I want to inform readers that this blog has evolved into something like a diary. I do try to add helpful posts about spoonie dating and natural pain relievers and anti-inflammatories as well but not as often as I’d like. 

I am writing tonight to remind people that they can’t just read one post and think they know what’s best for me. There are ups and downs in everyone’s lives, especially those with chronic illness. 

It’s not all in my head. 

It’s not because I’m missing something spiritually. 

My pain doesn’t give you the right to judge me and it doesn’t make me a bad person. 

I can’t pray the pain away. It doesn’t work like that.  

The devil is not causing my pain. 

I am human and I use this blog to vent sometimes because I know others here are going through similar things but maybe I shouldn’t reveal so much here. Perhaps it’s become too personal because people seem to think they know what’s best for me. 

I have improved quite a bit. I am maintaining well but everyone has bad days. When you have to take two steps back, sometimes it can be depressing. Pain can be depressing, isolating and overwhelming. Especially when it isn’t taken seriously. 

If you knew me, you’d see that I have taken a lot more forward steps than backwards steps. I’ve done a shitload of research and clinical trials. If I just listened to my doctors, I’d be bedridden. I took my health into my own hands and I’m glad I did. 

I am positive. I am happy. That doesn’t mean I’m not in pain and it doesn’t get to me sometimes. 

I am a fighter. I always will be so if you feel the need to pass judgment, you can fuck off. You’re not better than me because you’re not in constant pain. 

The pain is not a choice. It’s not in my head. Well, except for the migraines and headaches. πŸ˜‰

Some helpful posts you can look forward to reading soon-

  • Cayenne pepper lemonade for migraine relief 
  • Apps that help maintain chronic illness and stress
  • Heath benefits of sex

Sorry for the rant. Stay sexy spoonies. 

The Wrong Genes for Jeans

The Wrong Genes for Jeans

I just wanted to get an update out there so, here it is. I just took some meds and while they may not do much for the pain, hopefully they’ll make me care about it a little less.Β 

I’ve been seeing all the hard work I did in Febuary start to pay off but March has been a stressful month too. School, work and family issues have left me low on spoons and today, I’ve caused myself quite a bit of pain. Seems it’s been a difficult month for many. I can’t help but think, things wouldn’t seem so dreary of the sun would shine. Spring Break is starting and it feels absolutely nothing like Spring. At least, not the like the humid, hot, Texas Spring that I am used to. I enjoy the muggy, sticky weather. It’s like being wrapped in a blanket and I could use some swaddling. πŸ˜‰

Today, I attempted to wear jeans instead of jeggings or pajama jeans. I miss wearing actual pants. I feel frumpy in jeggings but it’s better than the intense burning in my hips, thighs and waist line, that I am experiencing now. I ran out of work appropriate attire and since jeans are permitable on Fridays, I put on my softest pair. I have not been able to wear jeans due to fibromyalgia related allydonia. Usually, I can’t put jeans on without immediate, intense pain. This morning, they seemed bearable. They’re a little big so I thought that would work in my favor but pulling them up constantly only seemed to irritate my skin more more. It feels like chemical burns, like I left the Nair on my legs for far too long.

So, now I am sitting here in my pajama pants. Spring Break is this week and I’m glad I’ll get to run around in my joggers. The dog doesn’t understand why he can’t sit in my lap. My skin hasn’t felt this sensitive since I was first diagnosed with fibromyalgia but at least I got to look cute for a few hours.

I don’t typically post photos of my face on this blog but, I figure, if you’ve read this far, you deserve to see me! πŸ˜‰

I am not sure I’ll ever put on another pair of jeans but I would like to. Would wearing shape wear or tights under the clothing make it less painful? I love wearing dresses but what do you pull out of your woredrobe when you want to dress casual and look presentable? And what if you just don’t have the spoons to shave your legs?

The Power of Human Contact

The Power of Human Contact

“Gentle touch has been shown to facilitate physical and psychological functioning, particularly in terms of reducing stress, relieving pain, increasing the ability to cope, and general health ratings.”

I know you are stressed and exhausted and that often just makes the pain worse but I’m here today to stress the importance of TOUCH in your relationships. I understand that the pain and fatigue can make you want to completely cut the intimacy out of your life but as humans, we thrive on that connection. Person to person contact is mutually beneficial and has also been proven to help control anger.


According to the University of Miami School of Medicine, the health benefits of human contact are,
Decreased Pain- Children with rheumatoid arthritis who were given massages by their parents 15 minutes /day for one month reported lower stress levels, anxiety and pain.
Enhanced Immune Function- Studies have shown an increase in cancer fighting cells in women with breast cancer and HIV patients after massage. Anxiety, stress and depression also decreased.
Happy & Strong Babies- Premature infants given more touch and attention in the NCIU gained more weight.
Quicker & Less Painful Births- Women in labor who received a backrub for 15 minutes of each hour of labor reported less pain and used less pain medication. Labor was also typically shorter.
Enhanced Alertness and Performance- People completed math problems faster and made less mistakes after having a massage.

So if you think you’re in too much pain to be touched, think again. A little human contact may be exactly what you need.
I know there are days when even the lightest touch can be excruciatingly painful and send chills up your spine but you can’t isolate yourself forever. That’s not how you protect yourself.


  • Start with a professional massage.
  • Go somewhere reputable and make sure they know how to accommodate your chronic illness and touch sensitivities.
  • Communication is key! Make sure they are aware of any apprehension or anxiety you may be feeling as well as any extra sensitive areas. If you feel comfortable ask for some tips you could give your significant other.

Remember, touch is mutually beneficial and the intimacy of a romantic massage can do wonders for your relationship. If you feel like you’ve been drifting apart, simply holding hands can make you feel closer and spark a little romance. Start slow, it can be easy to feel overstimulated at first. Essential oils and lotions can reduce friction and even pain. Again, communication is key. Instead of shutting your partner out, try to help them understand. They can’t possibly fathom the pain that some sensations cause that’s why its critical they know what to avoid and what helps ease the pain. Please be mindful of allergies and irritants when selecting oils and lotions.

Have fun, be sexy!

Sex & Headaches

Sex & Headaches

I have been getting headaches for as long as I can remember. I battle sinus headaches, chronic headaches due to my fibromyalgia, migraines, tension headaches due to anxiety and cluster headaches. I have many triggers including, certain smells, sounds, lighting, ponytails, stress, chemicals, bending down, strenuous activity and more. There is almost no chance that I won’t have a headache but I cope with most of them quite well. I’ve adapted.
I use soft lighting to help myself relax and Himalayan salt at home to clean the air. My home is my haven. Triggers are not so easy to control outside the home, unfortunately. That’s why, I’ve always got earplugs and my prescription sunglasses on hand. I should consider them part of my Calm Kit. These days, you’ll never catch me without my little oxygen trolley. The thought of forgetting it somewhere gives me a mini anxiety attack.
Last Wednesday, I had one of the worst headaches of my life. I cried and shook uncontrollably until the pain subsided enough for me to fall asleep. I slept all day and had no problem sleeping all night. Since then, I’ve had nothing but nightmares. I don’t cope with nightmares well. They leave me exhausted, emotionally sensitive and anxious. Point being, headaches are often more than just head pain and that can be debilitating enough. Unfortunately, stress and can be affecting more aspects of you life than you realize. So, it’s time to unwind! πŸ˜‰
Sometimes sex can help relieve a headache but other times it seems to make it worse. That’s why it’s important to get the romance just right. The atmosphere must be tailored to your needs if you want any chance of relief. I know there’s no getting lucky with a migraine but sex can help relieve your average headache, stress and tension.

Setting the Mood

Bad lighting can be more than just a mood killer. It can also be a trigger for a killer migraine. Try a Himalayan salt lamp or candle holder. The dim, pink hue is perfect and the salt has been proven to help relieve head pain! Large lightly or unscented candles are great too.

Use a sound machine instead of music. Saxophones and violins are often found in romantic music but the pitch might be a trigger. Try a soothing rain or stream setting. If you don’t have a sound machine, try the App Store! Try to minimize other noises and outside interference.

Comfort is important. If you plan to be outdoors, have plenty of pillows and blankets. Make sure you are not facing the sun or under direct sunlight.

Freezing Water
Temperature control can be critical. If the A/C is too cold, I get a nasty headache. Not to mention, my joints start to ache and all I want to do is bury myself under the covers. I’m sure I’m not alone.

Overpowering scents are often a trigger. Minimize the use of perfumes, scented aftershave, air fresheners and scented candles.


If you plan on drinking alcohol, have chilled water on hand too to ensure that no one gets dehydrated.

If you have any tips, I’d love to hear them!
Have fun, be sexy!

Spoonie Romance Essentials

Spoonie Romance Essentials

When you’re in pain just about all over, you’re exhausted and your head is throbbing you might not feel like having sex. Fortunately, sex releases chemicals in the brain that can ease pain and stress. Being intimate can be calming and rewarding but it’s vital that your partner understands how your body is feeling. Convey where it hurts and be as open as possible. It’s understandable to be apprehensive about intercourse when you’re in so much pain but a lack of intimacy can make you feel pretty bad too. These are some of my favorite props and toys.

Stability Ball or Swiss Ball
You know, one of those big balls you see people doing plank variations on and other exercises at the gym. People even replace their desk chairs with one of these large balls. I had one at home for stretching and exercising. They’re quite fun and you can pick one up just about anywhere. I bought mine at Academy. It can also be used as a prop for certain positions but make sure it is properly inflated and the proper size for your height and weight. Don’t forget to account for the added pressure that will be applied during intercourse. The best position is for the female to sit on her knees, likely with a pillow under them, then take the ball in front of her and lean forward placing her hands on the floor in front of her to stabilize. This position takes pressure off the knees, back and hips and absorbs shock.

Body Paint or Lotion
If you’re feeling sore and tired but you still want some action, have your partner paint your most sensitive areas with body paint so that he knows to avoid them and not grab too hard. It’ll be a sensual experience because you’ll be naked but he’ll have to wait to touch you until you’re all painted. Another option is to have him rub you with lotion or essential oils. Calling attention to the sore areas in a seductive way will let him know where it hurts without turning him off. Peppermint, rosemary and eucalyptus oils are anti-inflammatory. Chamomile and lavender are relaxants and remember, it’s always best to use pure and natural oils.

Ribbons, feathers and an Eye Mask
Sometimes, you just need to be pampered or you miss being tied up but your ankles and wrists hurt. Well, ribbons, silk scarves and crocheted shawls make great restraints. They’re soft and forgiving fabric won’t leave marks or hurt delicate skin so it’s fun to play again. They untie easily and typically long enough to tie loosely. If you have a headache or you’re just feeling exhausted, put the eye mask on and let your partner tickle your troubles away. With allodynia or nerve pain, you may have to play around with different textures and pressures to find something that feels good against your skin. Cooler temperatures can also make skin more sensitive so make sure you don’t turn the thermostat down too low.

Spoonie Romance Essentials-

  • Natural Essential oils
  • Unscented Candles
  • Ribbons
  • Hypoallergenic toys
  • Soft pillows
  • Eye Mask

Don’t let the passion fade out of your life because of the pain! Drown some of that pain with pleasure. Just be safe and take it slow.

Don’t forget protection! πŸ˜‰



Hey Sexy!

Hey Sexy!

Hello and welcome! I wanted to create this blog because it’s been a journey for me finding ways to be comfortable during intercourse since my fibromyalgia diagnosis. I want to share all of the tips and tricks I’ve learned because many women are in so much pain and feel so unattractive they stop having sex completely. When your sex life starts to suffer so does your self esteem and relationships. A lack of intimacy can easily ruin a relationship. We are already suffering enough, we don’t have to feel lonely too.
Some things you’ll find here in the future will include, positions, soft lingerie, supports and toys. Don’t worry, I’ll keep it classy. There will be no graphic pictures and my articles will focus on feeling sexy and being comfortable. My goal is to help women find pleasure and forget pain!