Cayenne Pepper Lemonade

Cayenne Pepper Lemonade

This cayenne pepper lemonade is great for migraines and it’s delicious too! 

It’s the perfect blend of tangy, sweet and spicy.

The active ingredient in cayenne peppers, capsaicin, is believed to bring headache relief by depleting Substance P, a neurotransmitter that helps send pain signals. Although some are still skeptical, a number of studies have tested the claim, and most have found evidence to support it. One prominent study on capsaicin for pain relief was published back in 1998 in the Clinical Journal of Pain. Their review of 33 previous studies found that capsaicin worked better than a placebo for cluster headaches.

Dr. Mercola 

Lemons help balance acidity and detoxify the body. Hydrating can also help reduce head pain. Cayenne is a natural blood thinner. This can reduce the intensity of the headache but consuming too much of the lemonade could have adverse effects if you’re on medications such as blood thinners. 

If you’re concerned about potential reactions, consult your doctor or pharmacist. 

Cayenne Pepper Lemonade


  • 1/8 – 1/2 teaspoon cayenne pepper 
  • 4 ounces honey
  • 12 ounces hot water
  • 8 ounces fresh lemon juice
  • Ice cubes and lemon slices for serving


In a heatproof 1-quart pitcher, combine the honey, cayenne pepper and hot water. Start with less pepper and add more depending on your tastes. Don’t stand directly over the pitcher. The cayenne will make your eyes water. Stir until the honey is dissolved. Stir in the lemon juice. I love pulp so I don’t strain the juice but make sure you don’t miss any seeds! Let cool for at least 10 minutes or cover and refrigerate until ready to serve. Pour into ice-filled glasses and garnish with lemon slices. All ingredients can be adjusted to personal taste. It’s a versatile recipe. Try experimenting by adding mint or blueberries to the mix! It’s also great frozen! Chill it then blend it with some ice and enjoy. 

Cayenne also boosts metabolism! Stay sexy Spoonies! 

$122.95/ Month to Maintain

$122.95/ Month to Maintain

It’s been a difficult year. I can’t believe it’s already a third of the way over. Seems like life gets exponentially more difficult and more expensive as time passes. I guess I was supposed to become exponentially more awesome and successful to compensate. Whoops! 

I’ve been having a really difficult time lately with my hormones. This battle is really kicking my ass. The side effects from the other medication were becoming too severe so my doctor took me off of those and put me on birth control. It’s finally the end of the first month and my body has been having trouble adjusting. I’m now starting my second period for the month. So exhausting! My night sweats and migraines have been worse. I’m incredibly emotional and I’ve gained five pounds. 


It’s not like I haven’t been trying but I still feel like I’m barely keeping my head above water. I’m behind in my classes due to the increase in the severity and frequency of my migraines. I’ve even started foam rolling my neck. It provides quite a bit of relief but it’s not enough to allow me to study as much as I need to. I don’t even have time to write. I’m only posting now because it’s so therapeutic. 

I finally added the cost of my supplements and meds to my monthly budget. I’ve been neglecting adding it all up because I didn’t want to know how much I was spending. I feel guilty about it even though I know I shouldn’t. I am spending $122.95 a month to function with fibromyalgia. I treat my cluster headaches and fibromyalgia naturally. I’m on prescriptions to help manage my IBS, migraines and allergies. I forgot to factor in the cost of my nasal spray but I buy it in bulk because I can get it so much cheaper. Also, I either forget to use it or can’t because I’m too stuffed up so what I have will probably last a while. 

I decided to finally budget that in because the household has already gone through some changes with the addition of the dog but there is likely to be some other major changes. School will be out soon and I will lose that portion of my income and without a car, it’s becoming increasingly more difficult to make the twice a week journey to my nanny gig. 

I love those babies and their family so much. The thought of not being with them breaks my heart. They are getting older now and probably won’t need me much longer. They’ll be going to school full time before I know it and that’s what makes this decision so difficult. I’m going to be forced to take some time off until I can get a vehicle. 

My fiancé is considering taking a job that he doesn’t want, for me. I would have the ability to take some time off work and catch up on my schooling. We could save up for a car and I could go back to work. We would be able to buy a house sooner. We could finally enjoy the water instead of always feeling like we are drowning. 

I’ve never felt like that before, like I wasn’t drowning. But, I’ve managed to be content with life for the most part. I’m wondering if these changes will really make us any happier. People always want more. When I have my house and I’ve finished my degree will I be happy or will I want more? I am already exhausted. For me, success will be maintainable contentment. I was going to add “and nominal pain levels” to that but I feel like that is probably asking way too much. 😉 

What do you do when you feel like your drowning? How do you prioritize and make decisions? 

Stay sexy Spoonies! 

Oh, Hello

Oh, Hello

Since going back to school, I’ve pretty much had a constant migraine. A tension headache at the least. 

It’s like I have no down time now. I feel like I should be studying every extra minute I have. 

I’ve managed fine up to this point. I have already finished my first term, months early. Now, the class I’m in requires a lot of reading. I read my textbook online because it’s free. Having an actual book would be easier on my eyes but it’s also expensive. I’ve changed the settings on my laptop so that it’s easier in my eyes. I take frequent breaks and stretch but my study time always seems to get cut short because I keep getting these excrutiating headaches. 

I’ve had stress headaches all my life. They were really bad in high school but I thought I finally had them under control. Apparently, not. 

I am going to try to limp along until summer. I won’t be working as much. I am hoping that will ease these headaches a bit. Otherwise, I’m going to have to choose between work and school and I really don’t want to drop out of another Bachelor’s program. Especially, since I’m actually excited about this one. I really want to be a teacher. I had dreams of becoming a librarian but that’s even more schooling! I’m feeling kinda hopeless and discouraged. 

I’ve been planning on posting about spoonie dating sites and dating with chronic illness but I can barely stand to look at any screens. I would like to get that post out soon so I’m going to make that a goal for the weekend. 

So check back soon for some chronic illness dating tips and stay sexy spoonies!

Sex & Headaches

Sex & Headaches

I have been getting headaches for as long as I can remember. I battle sinus headaches, chronic headaches due to my fibromyalgia, migraines, tension headaches due to anxiety and cluster headaches. I have many triggers including, certain smells, sounds, lighting, ponytails, stress, chemicals, bending down, strenuous activity and more. There is almost no chance that I won’t have a headache but I cope with most of them quite well. I’ve adapted.
I use soft lighting to help myself relax and Himalayan salt at home to clean the air. My home is my haven. Triggers are not so easy to control outside the home, unfortunately. That’s why, I’ve always got earplugs and my prescription sunglasses on hand. I should consider them part of my Calm Kit. These days, you’ll never catch me without my little oxygen trolley. The thought of forgetting it somewhere gives me a mini anxiety attack.
Last Wednesday, I had one of the worst headaches of my life. I cried and shook uncontrollably until the pain subsided enough for me to fall asleep. I slept all day and had no problem sleeping all night. Since then, I’ve had nothing but nightmares. I don’t cope with nightmares well. They leave me exhausted, emotionally sensitive and anxious. Point being, headaches are often more than just head pain and that can be debilitating enough. Unfortunately, stress and can be affecting more aspects of you life than you realize. So, it’s time to unwind! 😉
Sometimes sex can help relieve a headache but other times it seems to make it worse. That’s why it’s important to get the romance just right. The atmosphere must be tailored to your needs if you want any chance of relief. I know there’s no getting lucky with a migraine but sex can help relieve your average headache, stress and tension.

Setting the Mood

Bad lighting can be more than just a mood killer. It can also be a trigger for a killer migraine. Try a Himalayan salt lamp or candle holder. The dim, pink hue is perfect and the salt has been proven to help relieve head pain! Large lightly or unscented candles are great too.

Use a sound machine instead of music. Saxophones and violins are often found in romantic music but the pitch might be a trigger. Try a soothing rain or stream setting. If you don’t have a sound machine, try the App Store! Try to minimize other noises and outside interference.

Comfort is important. If you plan to be outdoors, have plenty of pillows and blankets. Make sure you are not facing the sun or under direct sunlight.

Freezing Water
Temperature control can be critical. If the A/C is too cold, I get a nasty headache. Not to mention, my joints start to ache and all I want to do is bury myself under the covers. I’m sure I’m not alone.

Overpowering scents are often a trigger. Minimize the use of perfumes, scented aftershave, air fresheners and scented candles.


If you plan on drinking alcohol, have chilled water on hand too to ensure that no one gets dehydrated.

If you have any tips, I’d love to hear them!
Have fun, be sexy!

Essential Essential Oils

Essential Essential Oils


My curiosity about essential oils developed after I started using more natural products. I have always tried to shop cruelty-free but only in recent years have I learned about all the dangerous chemicals some companies use in their products. I started researching essential oils after I discovered my now favorite lotion. It’s full of natural analgesics, relaxants and anti-inflammatories like birch bark, eucalyptus and lavender.

At first, I was a little intimidated but once I started learning about different oils, I couldn’t wait to start trying them. My favorites are, lavender and peppermint. I mix six drops of peppermint and four drops of lavender for every ounce of carrier oil. The mixture eases tension and helps alleviate muscle aches. I use coconut oil as my carrier oil because it has so many health benefits, its easy to find and readily available. It is really good for your skin all by itself and in my opinion, it is one of the best values. You can use whatever carrier oil you prefer. Beware of allergies! A ratio of one drop of essential oil to one teaspoon of carrier oil creates a mixture with one percent potency. It may not sound like much but mixtures aren’t usually made with more than a ten percent concentration. Essential oils are very powerful. Many don’t even need to be applied to the skin to be beneficial. Aromatherapy is used to alleviate pain and improve well-being.


Essential Oils for Headaches

These oils can be used together or separately to help alleviate many different types of headaches from migraines to gastric headaches.



Essential Oils for Inflammation & Muscle Aches



Essential Oils for Muscle Pain



There are a myriad of Aphrodisiacs

Clary Sage
Ylang Ylang

Essential oils have become really popular recently But this is no fad, the benefits of essential oils are real and they range from cleaning aids to pain relievers to aphrodisiacs! It’s important to do your research and only purchase quality, natural oils. Learn about the attributes and uses of different oils. Many oils are for aromatherapy only and should not be applied to the skin because it can cause irritation. Some essential oils are not meant to be ingested.

What are your favorite oils and carriers? Do you use essential oils more for massage or aromatherapy?

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Have fun, be sexy!