Not Your Average Detox

Not Your Average Detox

Part Three

 I just realized I didn’t weigh before I started this process but this is a detox not a weight loss cleanse. It has certainly gotten things moving, if you know what I mean. I’ve been trying to eat at least three apples a day in addition to other fruits and vegetables. More fermented foods too. I love sourkraut! 

So, this detox seems to be great for my IBS-C. Plus, I do feel like be shed a couple of pounds, at least. 

 
I had some fantastic results from the DIY wrap too! I left it on for about two hours and it took off two inches from my waist an an inch from my thighs. I’ll measure again after 72 hours and see if it lasted or improved. 


Recipes-

Spicy Tumeric Ginger Detox Drink

 
The original recipe can be found here.

I loved this tea so much because it really made me feel great and it smelled amazing! I want to make it at least once a month. 

Ingredients:

  • 6-inch piece of fresh Ginger
  • 1 teaspoon Turmeric
  • 2 Cinnamon sticks- I used 2 tablespoons of ground cinnamon because it’s what I had at home but next time I will get cinnamon sticks. 
  • 1/2 teaspoon ground Cayenne
  • Raw Honey and Lemon added for personal taste. 

Directions:

Peel ginger and slice thinly. Use the side of the knife to smash the ginger (exposing more surface area).

Add ginger slices to a saucepan with 6 cups of water and bring to a boil. Turn the heat to low and simmer for 10 minutes.

Add the cinnamon sticks, turmeric, and cayenne. Simmer for another 10 minutes.

Strain into a mug and Stir in a spoonful of honey and squeeze of lemon.

I drank one pot a day for three days and I’d just leave it simmering on the stove all day because it smelled so wonderful. I left a lid on it so it wouldn’t evaporate. This is going to be my favorite way to warm up this winter! 

Green Tea Body Wrap

 
The original recipe can be found here

Ingredients:

  • Ace bandage (or some type of fabric that can absorb water and be wrapped around the body. I used towels).
  • Plastic wrap
  • 2 cups of water
  • 3 Green tea bags 
  • 1/4 cup sea salt
  • 2 tbsp coconut oil  
  • 1 cup of drinking water

Directions:

Bring 2 cups water to boil with most of the salt and tea bags.

Drink the cup of water before wrapping

Let the water boil for 2 minutes then allow it to cool. 

 While the water is boiling, combine the remaining salt (about 2 tbsp) with the coconut oil and massage into the area(s) you plan to wrap.

Unroll the ace bandage and soak it in the salt water tea until it soaks up the liquid. 

Tightly wrap oiled areas. Make sure the water is not too hot but still warm! 

Lock in the heat and moisture by wrapping the bandaged areas with plastic wrap.

I doubled the recipe so I could to my waist and thunder thighs. I stayed wrapped for about two hours. 

My measurements after the wrap- 

Waist 2 inches smaller! After 72 hours, I shrank another inch!

Thighs were one inch smaller and there was no change after 72 hours. 


Invigorating Citrus Detox Bath

 

Ingredients:

  • 1/2 cup baking soda
  • 2 cups Epsom salt
  • 1 orange, sliced
  • A couple drops of peppermint essential oil and a drop of orange oil
  • 1 cup of drinking water

Directions:

Drink the cup of water. 

Add all ingredients to a hot fresh bath. Swirl the water to help the salt and soda dissolve and enjoy. 

I like to rub the orange slices on my skin. It is very invigorating and really seems to curb the fatigue in my upper body. Sometimes a bath can be exhausting and leave me feeling drained but not with the oranges! I started adding peppermint oil because it smells fantastic and soothes my head. 

Hydration is key! Especially when detoxing. I always bring a cold bottle of water with me and try to finish it before I get out of the bath. 

Yoga or a massage during detox to move toxins through the body to encourage the release of lymphatic fluids. Always drink water before doing any kind of detox. If your body is dehydrated, it won’t be able to move the toxins out of the body. Think of it like an internal rinse. 

Stay sexy Spoonies and happy detoxing!

Featured image courtesy of Pinterest from popwisdom.joaomognon.com

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Not Your Average Detox

Not Your Average Detox

Part Two

I don’t know how he does it. I’m not even sure he knows he’s doing it or how much I need it but my fiancé always knows when I need a break. I probably get cranky! 😉 

Anyway, I could have worked but he talked me into going to the beach. I hadn’t been to the island in years. It was the best decision I’ve made all week! It was cool and windy. Parts of the beach were al little crowded but nothing like it would have been in the middle of the summer. We parked and walked out to one of the rock jetties. The salty wind in my face and the crashing waves were like therapy. I felt like I was being rejuvenated as I stood there. I could have stayed there all day. 

After lunch, we decided to take the ferry back to the mainland.  Never before have I ever seen so many dolphins! It was such a neat experience. It was the first time I’d ever seen more dolphins than crabs at the beach. Don’t get me wrong, crabs are cute and interesting to watch but I felt privileged to see so many dolphins! 

By the time the ferry reached land and we had to get back in the car to prepare for departure, I felt so replenished. Even kinda lucky! I really appreciated the day and all of its events. I was especially thankful for my thoughtful fiancé. 

You’re probably wondering what all this has to do with my detox but this was exactly what I needed as I was sheading all this unnecessary crap. I felt like the ocean washed away all the baggage, worry and anxiety sitting in front of a screen saddled me with. Social media was making my world too big. I would worry about all of the homeless pets that had been abused or were in danger of euthanasia. I was overwhelmed by all the reposted news stories concerning child abuse and the plethora of children with cancer. I didn’t realize how much it’d all been weighing me down. 

But, when I left social media behind and ventured out into my own backyard, I saw dolphins, pelicans, sailed across the bay and enjoyed a beautiful day with my fiancé. I realized that I could be happier and more productive with less. I could experience life more by sharing less. I can make a difference in my own neighborhood by picking up a little trash or helping a neighbor instead of reposting to raise awareness. Awareness campaigns are great but just because people are aware doesn’t mean anything is actually being done to improve the situation. I know I can’t change the world but I can change someone’s world. Helping one person or animal makes a difference in their life and that’s what matters. Social media, like most other things, is fine in moderation. It always comes down to finding balance. 

Obviously, this is turning into a three parter but I am not teasing you. I will share my recipes in part three. The social media portion of my detox has been more powerful than I realized. I’m not second guessing myself or wondering where I fit in. I am just enjoying life. So many things that seemed to matter so much just don’t anymore. My first thought when I see something spectacular isn’t “Oh, I need to post this!” anymore. It’s more like, “Don’t look away! Enjoy this. Take it all in. Relish in this experience and the people you are sharing it with. Capture this memory in your mind forever instead of interrupting the moment with a flash and a post”. 

I recently upgraded to a new iPhone. I backed up all of my pictures, apps, contacts, everything. No one wants to lose important pictures or contacts. Unfortunately, I did. I used an app to create photo collages. It was like a scrapbook of my life over the last five years. It has always made the transfer but this time it didn’t. It’s all gone. Five years worth of memories, gone! I emailed the app developer and they were just as puzzled. Nothing could be done to recover what I’d lost. 

Sure, I’ll still capture some moments on camera and I love looking at the photos I’ve printed and hung around the apartment. Those memories make me smile but I didn’t get any pictures of the dolphins either and thinking of them makes me smile too. Photos don’t capture the companionship I felt sharing that experience with my fiancé. Photos don’t capture the wind, the salt water or the sunshine. All of those things are captured in my mind. That’s better than a photograph. 

Actually living life seems to be quite a bit more fulfilling than trying to prove to others that I am living and enjoying life. 

Stay sexy and stay tuned for part three and all the recipes, Spoonies! I promise they’re on the way! 

Hormone Hell

Hormone Hell

This will probably be more of a rant than anything. I feel like I should also warn you that this post is full of more information than you wanted to know. Probably lost a few readers there but….

Ovarian Folicle
Ovarian Folicle
I am in so much pain. I feel like I’m the only one in my life that’s not used to all the pain and fatigue, the sleeplessness, night sweats, bad dreams. I just want to cry and cry but when I cry, other things hurt. I guess that’s just one of the benefits of an invisible illness.

My fiancé notices the cognitive issues like when I can’t navigate the grocery store or I can barely cook dinner because I can’t remember what to do next. Then, it’s burnt but he is sweet. At least I can be thankful for that.

I have not been in this much pain in quite a while. Since I found a good combination supplements and medications, the pain has been manageable, most days.  Now my hormones are screwing everything up, making everything worse. I’m lucky I’m not working but I’m still starting to get behind in my math class. If I am able to concentrate, its not long before my head starts to hurt. It has taken me all day to get this post put together. I shouldn’t even be working on this. Its a waste of time compared to studying but writing is so much more therapeutic. All I want to do is sleep and I can hardly keep up with the house work.

Studying has been a real challenge, lately.
Studying has been a real challenge, lately.
The month started off fantastically. I was ready to start losing the weight the birth control pills caused me to gain and I’d lost over 5 pounds the first week. I was eating healthy and exercising everyday despite the increase of headaches. I don’t know what kind of headaches they are but they don’t respond to any medication or treatments. Sleep is the only escape. I only started taking birth control to help regulate my hormones. I believe I have PCOS but I was just diagnosed with PMDD. It’s probably both. I have debilitating cramps every month that shut my world down. My cycles have not always been regular but they never cease to wreck my life for a week, when they do come. As if the dysmenorrhea wasn’t enough, I’m dealing with the embarrassing hirsutism too. I don’t understand why doctors insist on trying to treat these individual symptoms instead of doing more hormone testing and looking at the big picture.

I’ve finally got the fibromyalgia (somewhat) under control and I still can’t function half the time because my hormones are all screwed up. I bleed twice as long as I should and the imbalance is making my fibro flare half the month! My hips are on fire! My spine feels like it was ripped out and used to beat the dirt out of a thousand old rugs, then hastily glued back in. All I want to do is sleep. For the last week my daily routine only consists of doing the absolute minimum then crying myself back to sleep. Then I get up to make dinner.

Sleep is the only thing I have the energy for.
Sleep is the only thing I have the energy for.
My hormones are screwing with my IBS too. That’s not unusual but the shittier I feel, the less I care about what I eat so that just makes everything even worse.

See, I told you this wouldn’t be much more than a rant. It looks like it’s turning into a pretty long one too. Is is so much to want to be healthy? I just want to be healthy enough to function. I have things I’m trying to accomplish here. I need to finish school but I haven’t been able to study. My head has been bothering me a lot lately. I think that’s the birth control too. You’re not supposed to take them if you suffer from migraines. So, what am I supposed to do?

The pain is depressing. How can I dream of being a librarian if I struggle so much just to get through one semester of school? How can I ever get fit if I am too lethargic and sore to exercise? I don’t know how I will ever reach my goals with so many internal obstacles. I don’t have the energy to demand the doctors listen to me. My own body has already robbed me of my youth. Now its trying to smother my hopes and dreams too. I hate how negative I sound but that’s what the never-ending pain does. Its hard to stay faithful and push through. I am lucky to have such a good support system. My heart goes out to those that don’t. It is times like this, I am glad I am so stubborn. I will get through school even if I have to hire someone to read my text books to me. Having a clear plan and a goal in sight helps me stay focused even when my pain is high. Nothing good worth having ever came easy. That’s how the saying goes, right?

The Pills from Hell
The Pills from Hell
I’m not refilling the prescription again. It has been three months and they’re only making things worse. There’s got to be a better option. Anybody want to buy some ovaries? I’ll throw in my uterus for free! 😉 One treatment for PCOS (the doctors won’t admit I have it but they’re willing to treat me for it) is an IUD. This type of birth control is typically reserved for women with children but, I was told there are exceptions for women in my condition. Unfortunately, there are lots of dangerous side effects like ectopic pregnancy. I’m going to have to go back to the doctor. I need my yearly woman’s exam anyway. I hate those things. The doctor always looks at me funny when I tell her it’s painful. My cervix is high and back so they have to use the long skinny tool. They never listen and shove that short, fat thing up there with no success. Just pain. No one ever listens.

Are you ever ashamed or embarrassed about the actions or behavior you displayed when you were upset or in pain? I ate some lunch and took some meds so I am not in so much pain now. I am proof reading this post thinking, “Damn, girl! Chill out. You’re just PMSing right now but you’re gonna get this shit worked out too. You’ll live in a lighthouse one day with your wonderful husband, a myriad of rescued pets and you’ll be a librarian. You’ll get there.” Okay, thanks self. Everyone reading this thinks I’m insane now. 😉

Life with chronic illness is such a roller coaster and I feel like my hormones have thrown my coaster off the tracks!  If anyone out there is suffering from hormone issues, I’d love to hear your story. Thank you for letting me rant. I feel like such a drama queen. Stay sexy, Spoonies!

Spoonie Dating

Spoonie Dating

I know how scary it can be to put yourself out there but we can’t let our chronic illnesses, anxiety or whatever else keep us from living life to the absolute fullest. You deserve to have someone in your life that really cares for you and wants to see you happy.

I’ve been compiling a list of spoonie friendly dating sites and I’ve discovered a few friend making sites as well. I am lucky enough to have an amazing partner but I could always use more friends!

Spoonie Dating Tips-

Most of these will probably sound cliche but they’re important, none the less.

  • Let’s start with the biggest cliche and just get it out of the way. Be yourself. Yep, I said it. I know. I wanted to place emphasis here because sometimes, with chronic illness, we feel like we don’t even know ourselves. I know I’m not the same person I was before I was struck with all my lovely ailments. So, it’s important not to hide your disabilities and your anxieties. You are wonderful. If your date can’t handle it, you want to find out as soon as possible.
  • Get used to rejection. It’s nothing personal, really. Some people just aren’t willing to take the time to get to know you. They might just be looking for a booty call. If that’s all you’re looking for, great! But, if you want more, don’t settle for someone who isn’t willing to put in the quality time.
  • If they want to spend time with you, they’ll find a way! No matter how busy either of you are and despite any limitations, if you meet someone genuinely interested in you, they will do all they can to find a way to spend time with you.
  • You are worthy! Remember that and don’t settle for an abusive relationship just because you are lonely. There is someone out there waiting to treat you like the Queen (or King) you truly are.
  • Leave the past behind you. It’s hard, maybe impossible to build a healthy relationship if you are always carrying around old baggage or worrying that your new partner is going to cheat on you, leave you or tell you you’re not good enough. You are more than good enough. Never forget that. Dwelling on the past won’t help your future.
  • Relax. First date, blind date, reconnected on Facebook after 20 years, whatever, just RELAX. Have a good time. Don’t worry about getting asked on a second date or the goodnight kiss. Play your heart out at mini golf, cry during the movie. If your date sees you having a genuinely good time, they’ll relax too and everyone will have more fun even if you don’t connect on a romantic level.
  • Trust yourself. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t feel bad for canceling or going home early. You are not obligated to do anything. Who cares if you seem a little rude? You have to take care of yourself first.
  • Be honest. Be upfront about your condition and your illnesses. You don’t have to pull out your medical records or tell your whole life story on the first date but ensure you aren’t pushing your boundaries too far. If you need your cane, take it. You are still rocking that dress!
  • A relationship is not like a home improvement project. You have to accept the person for who they are and the way they are and they must show you the same respect. You can’t paint over their flaws and polish their rough edges. You must embrace them because that’s what makes them a unique individual. Too unique for you? Be courteous and let them go. There is someone more fitting for you out there.
  • Compromise. You may have to make compromises to make the relationship work but never compromise your values. Compromise on dinner not your stance on abortion or whatever.

I know you know all this but the dating world can be intimidating at first. It’s important to stay true to yourself if you want to find someone you can be truly happy with.

Spoonie Dating Sites-

  • Dating 4 Disabled “Dating For Disabled is an online dating service for people with disabilities. We are a community where disabled singles can find love & friendship. Dating4Disabled is the number one disabled dating site, and registration is one hundred percent free!”
  • Disabled PassionsA 100% FREE online dating & social networking community specifically for singles with a disability. Meeting new people can sometimes be more difficult when you are dealing with a disability. Whether you are interested in dating, making new friends, or more, Disabled Passions is here for you. Use the Disability Groups option to find others dealing with Arthritis, Cancer, Cerebral Palsy, Depression, Diabetes Type 1, Diabetes Type 2, Mobility Issues, Muscular Dystrophy, Spinal Cord Injury or any of a number of other issues. Sign up now to enjoy free chat, message boards and email.
  • Soulful Encounters “SoulfulEncounters.com works with various disabled people and organizations to connect those who are physically and medically disabled and provide support, friendship, and a love filled social networking community. This is your opportunity for a brighter and richer life. Join SoulfulEncounters.com now – it’s free.”
  • Christian Disabled Dating “Being Disabled Doesn’t Mean You Have to Give up on Love. Create Your FREE Profile Today and Start Meeting Other Disabled Christian Singles in Your Local Area.”
  • Disability Match “Find genuine fun and intimacy with disabled singles. Specialist created this site to help people like you meet single adult men and women who share your disability, condition or life challenge within a friendly vibrant disabled community.”
  • Disability Dating “Disabiltydating.com is a free disabled dating site aimed at playing disabled cupid to people with disabilities who are seeking fun, friendship, love, romance and dating online. We aim to enable love, dating, friendship and romance by matchmaking in a safe, fun, online dating environment.”
  • Meet Disabled Singles “We’ve quickly become the most popular matchmaking agency when it comes to helping handicapable people. Spend a couple of minutes and let us be your cupid that helps you find new friends, lasting love or possibly even marriage. We can’t guarantee that you’ll find your bride, but we can guarantee that you’ll have your chance to get in touch with people looking to improve their life by finding love. Our members are united and ready to show you that your love life doesn’t have to suffer because of your disability. Create your account today for free, build your profile and start chatting with other members instantly.”
  • No Longer Lonely “We are a welcoming community that understands the trials and pitfalls of managing a mental illness. Find friends or seek romantic relationships knowing that everyone on this site has some form of mental illness.”

Friend Making Sites-

  • Girlfriend Social “Girlfriend Social is website that connects women with new female friendships. This website is for Ladies only, who just like you, are looking to make platonic women friendships. Inside women can make new friends with fabulous ladies in a safe and friendly environment.”
  • Make Friends Online “Whether you’re looking for a free great online dating agency or a place to hang out and chat with a few friends, you’ll find everything you need at MakeFriendsOnline. Millions of people from around the world are looking to meet other singles on dating websites. It’s never been easier to meet other singles on your terms, when you want and with who you want. MakeFriendsOnline.com has over 1,5 mln register members and is one of the largest online dating sites.”
  • Not 4 Dating “Not4Dating.com is a totally new way to expand your social network. We’re here to help you meet platonic friends online and then connect in real life.”
  • Disabled United “A great way to interact with other like minded people, share your views, information, advice and interests.”

Put your-sexy-selves out there, Spoonies! Have fun and stay safe!

Natural Altenatives

Natural Altenatives

You don’t have to compromise your morals for great sex! Ultimate sexual gratification can be reached safely and naturally without causing harm to the environment. Sexual exploration and experimentation is not all about spandex and leather or latex and silicon. Those materials have their place but what if you’re allergic to latex or you’re concerned about the environment or inhumane product testing? Looking for vegan lingerie and accessories? Well, don’t worry! There are natural alternatives and humane options! Did you know that coconut oil makes an excellent personal lubricant?! It has even been proven to help fight yeast infections. It is safe for all types of intercourse but do not use it with latex condoms. The coconut oil causes the latex to break down and become weaker.

Tips for Using Coconut Oil as Lubricant

  • Coconut oil is solid at room temperature. Microwave it for just a few seconds to liquify it or just rub a little between your palms.
  • Use with latex-free condoms only. Polyurethane is best.
  • Antibacterial and anti-fungal.
  • Available at the grocery store. Even if you buy organic, its still likely to be cheaper than your usual lubricant.
  • It can be used as massage oil as well.
  • It absorbs into the skin and leaves no sticky residue.
  • Alleviates vaginal dryness and helps fight yeast infections.
  • It’s moisturizing.
  • Safe for all types of intercourse.
  • For more information, try this.

Latex-Free and Natural Condoms

Many people have ethical concerns and latex allergies. There are a plethora of alternatives and most of them work pretty damn well! Many popular brands make latex free condoms. Lamb skin condoms are made out of sheep intestines. Obviously, these are not vegan. Many people like the feel of these condoms but they do not protect against many sexually transmitted diseases including, HIV. They do protect against pregnancy. Female condoms are typically constructed from polyurethane plastic. They prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections. All of the big name condom companies offer latex-free condoms. They are made from either polyisoprene or polyurethane. It is very important not to use coconut oil or other oil based lubricants with polyisoprene. Use silicon or water based lubricants with these condoms because polyisoprene is derived from latex. So, it behaves like latex but without causing allergies.

GLYDE is making safe sex totally guilt free! They are the first company to offer ethical, vegan condoms. Not only has the company created a better condom, they’re working to create a better world. They are working to prevent childbirth related deaths and support the Sexual Freedom Alliance.

“Revolutionizing sexual health and wellness, GLYDE is the first certified ethical, vegan & fair trade premium condom brand. Crafted with patented technology and a clean plant-based formula, our products deliver a more satisfying experience while eliminating concerns about harmful additives, animal products and testing.

Our natural rubber is grown sustainably, indigenous to the region, and within close proximity to our manufacturing facility – which minimizes our carbon footprint. GLYDE’s consumer packaging is made with recycled materials, soy and vegetable inks.” – GLYDE America

Organic Yes offers Vegitarian Society approved lubricants. They are organic and even oestrogen free so they are safe for women recovering from cancer. It is safe for the treatment of physical symptoms caused by vaginismus as well as Lichen Sclerosis. There have been no known allergic reactions. It is paraben and petrochemical free. They offer an extensive line of water based lubricants that work well with just about any condom as and an oil based line.

Vegan Lingerie and Accessories
The Vegan Sex Shop has everything from shoes to candles, harnesses, toys, vibrators and fetish gear. They have great prices and they guarantee discreet shipping. You can even donate a portion of the profits to a charity of your choice when you check out. They offer gift cards too in case you’re looking to spice things up but not sure how. Surprise your lover with a gift card from the Vegan Sex Shop and they just might surprise you in the bedroom! 😉
Naturally for Her offers vegan, organic, body-friendly toys and lubricants. They also supply condoms, candles and natural intimacy aids. These include sexual enhancers such as arousal gel and libido boosters offered in the form of supplements and serums. Their products are priced competitively and they have free shipping on orders over $50.00!
Explore! Be guilt-free! Stay sexy, Spoonies!

 

Sex Shy

Sex Shy

Recently, I was shocked to learn that many people are too shy to talk about their sexual concerns, even with their doctors!

Your health and happiness are too important to ignore your intimacy issues and sexual concerns!

Try talking to a nurse or doctor of the same sex as you, that you don’t normally see instead of your regular general practitioners or gynecologist. That way, you don’t have to worry about your doctor recalling your odd sex questions every time you go for a visit. If you’re too shy for even that, consider online appointments or a phone consultation.

Better Than Sex Ed has a sex ed hotline and you can even text them. They promise educated professionals will answer any and all embarrassing questions. It’s not a gossip line for sexual advice. The service is for questions regarding reproductive health, STDs, pregnancy, birth control, UTIs and reproductive rights. They also provide resources and information to help you communicate with your partner. They are certified by the California Family Health Council.
Teens Have Choices provides answers to more than just questions stemming from sexual curiosity. You can ask anything anonymously, through their website. It is also a great resource for parents.
Planned Parenthood provides a sexual health hotline that is free and confidential. There is also an option for online chat, a sexual education hotline and an option to text questions and concerns. Other resources can also be found on the Planned Parenthood website.
Becky provides a very extensive list of emergency hotlines, always good to have on hand.
To report abuse, call 911 and contact RAINN. RAINN has a 24 hour hotline for sexual assault victims and resources for friends and family.

I hope these resources help you answer all your embarrassing sex questions! Stay sexy, Spoonies!

It’s the Meds!

It’s the Meds!

If the side effects aren’t making you bloated and emotional, they’re zapping your sex drive. As if the pain, anxiety and insomnia weren’t enough to squander your sexiness, now you have all these side effects to deal with. The one that could probably drive the biggest wedge between you and your partner is the diminishing libido. Lots of medications can cause it too!
According to Mercola, 30-40% of the global population experiences low libido several months out of the year. Those numbers astonished me at first but when I really took the time to consider all the stress people endure in their daily lives on top of loss, illness and other life altering events, I thought they might even be an understatement. With chronic illness there’s even more to contend with, including medication.

Medications likely to cause low libido:

  • Antidepressants-
    SSRIs- The way these meds affect your brain chemistry may cause a low sex drive.
    Tricyclic- Affect the libido in much the same way as SSRIs.
  • 5-Alpha-Reductase Inhibitors- (Men) Work by preventing the conversion of testosterone to DHT. Of course, this would affect a man’s libido.
  • Birth Control- (Women) Lower hormone production, affecting sex drive in women.
  • Antihistamines- Prolonged use of these medications can cause lack of sexual desire in men and women.
  • Anti-Seizure Medications- reducing nerve impulses may make it more difficult to feel pleasure.
  • Beta Blockers-May lower blood pressure as well as desire.
  • Benzodiazepines- Anti-anxiety medications have been linked to decreased sexual pleasure.
  • Opioid Painkillers- (Men) Not only are they dangerously addictive, they’ve been proven to reduce testosterone levels in men.

If you are experiencing a low libido and believe it may be due to medication, talk to your doctor and pharmacist as soon as possible. Evaluate all your medications and supplements to pinpoint what might be causing this pesky side effect. Also, be open with your partner. Let them know what’s going on and how it’s making you feel. A lack of sex and intimacy in a relationship can quickly snowball into bigger issues. It may make your partner feel inadequate and insecure.

While you’re waiting to hear back from your doctor, evaluate your health. Are you getting enough sleep? Eating healthy? Make sure you are getting adequate exercise and spending enough time outside. Keep stress under control and nurture yourself. You’d be surprised how much sexier you feel after allowing yourself to just relax and unwind.

Stay sexy, Spoonies!

No Valentine

No Valentine

This is supposed to be a blog dedicated to spoonie romance and I didn’t do a Valentine’s post! I feel like a complete and total failure. Okay, that’s probably a bit harsh. Maybe the day has become too commercial or controversial with the rise of Singles Awareness Day. 😉 Maybe it doesn’t mean as much to Spoonies because we understand the importance of self care and know that true intimacy isn’t provoked by a box of chocolates. Is that too much of a stretch? Chocolates are nice but who really needs all that sugar anyway?

Romance shouldn’t be reduced to just one day and cheapened by greeting card companies. You deserve to be celebrated and appreciated everyday and so does your partner. I’m not trying to sound bitter. Go all out on Valentine’s Day if that’s your thing but don’t use that as an excuse to neglect yourself or your partner the rest of the year. Most spoonies are probably making time for self-care every week, like a bubble bath, but are you making the same dedication for relationship-care? When was the last time you had a date night? No time for that? Try to fit in time for coffee or even just phone sex. Try anything that has the potential to help you reconnect. Go for a couple’s massage or a bike ride in the park. Maybe you can’t get out of bed and you don’t feel sexy. Have your partner cuddle or just lay in bed with you and read romantic poems to each other. If you’re like me, you’ll enjoy these creepy Robert Browning poems. We are trying to save money this month so my fiancé bought me live tulips instead of cut flowers and he is learning a cheesy song (that he hates) on the guitar for me. Cheap and incredibly sweet! If I can keep these tulips alive and learn to care for them properly, the bulbs will multiply and I’ll have more next year! Tulips are my favorite flower. I’m slightly intimidated by how much care they need so if you have any tips, please let me know!

It doesn’t have to be a holiday to treat yourself or your partner. You’ll both be happier if you celebrate yourself and each other more often. If you’re single, you’re free to pamper yourself twice as much! 😉 So go ahead and add some rose petals to your bath, you deserve it!

Celebrate yourselves, sexy Spoonies!

After Sex Self Care

After Sex Self Care

Sex can be a workout! It is just as easy to pull a muscle or strain yourself during sex as it is when you’re out running or strength training. This means warming up and cooling down should be a part of your sex romps not just your workout routine. This is especially true for those of you with fibromyalgia and other chronic illnesses. Minimize your chances of getting hurt with these self care tips, after sex.

My Routine
1.)Stretching or Yoga- Helps realign the body and maintain flexibility.
2.)Foam Roller or Massage- Releases tension and relaxes the muscles.
3.)Bubble Bath- Warms the muscles, relaxes both body and mind. Like you needed a reason to take a bubble bath. 😉

For best results, try implementing at least two of the three in my list. I highly recommend the foam roller. It’s like giving yourself a deep tissue massage. It can be painful at first but the more you use it, the less painful it becomes. Then, eventually you’ll thank me! I use mine after every workout, shower/ bath and of course, after sex. It’s very important you only use the foam roller on warm muscles! So, don’t use it before sex or before you workout. Save it for last!
I ordered my foam roller from Amazon.com. It was under twenty bucks and it came with DVD instructions for foam rolling the entire body. There are many different types to choose from so go with what works best for you. The standard travel size foam roller works best for me be because it’s easy to store. My cats love to tear up that foam so I have to keep it tucked in a closet when I am not using it.
To learn more about foam rolling, mosey on over to this site. It happens to be where I got today’s featured image and it is bursting with great information.

Stay limber, be sexy!