Recovering: A Rant

Recovering: A Rant

I am now recovering from my oral surgery. I want to inform readers that this blog has evolved into something like a diary. I do try to add helpful posts about spoonie dating and natural pain relievers and anti-inflammatories as well but not as often as I’d like. 

I am writing tonight to remind people that they can’t just read one post and think they know what’s best for me. There are ups and downs in everyone’s lives, especially those with chronic illness. 

It’s not all in my head. 

It’s not because I’m missing something spiritually. 

My pain doesn’t give you the right to judge me and it doesn’t make me a bad person. 

I can’t pray the pain away. It doesn’t work like that.  

The devil is not causing my pain. 

I am human and I use this blog to vent sometimes because I know others here are going through similar things but maybe I shouldn’t reveal so much here. Perhaps it’s become too personal because people seem to think they know what’s best for me. 

I have improved quite a bit. I am maintaining well but everyone has bad days. When you have to take two steps back, sometimes it can be depressing. Pain can be depressing, isolating and overwhelming. Especially when it isn’t taken seriously. 

If you knew me, you’d see that I have taken a lot more forward steps than backwards steps. I’ve done a shitload of research and clinical trials. If I just listened to my doctors, I’d be bedridden. I took my health into my own hands and I’m glad I did. 

I am positive. I am happy. That doesn’t mean I’m not in pain and it doesn’t get to me sometimes. 

I am a fighter. I always will be so if you feel the need to pass judgment, you can fuck off. You’re not better than me because you’re not in constant pain. 

The pain is not a choice. It’s not in my head. Well, except for the migraines and headaches. 😉

Some helpful posts you can look forward to reading soon-

  • Cayenne pepper lemonade for migraine relief 
  • Apps that help maintain chronic illness and stress
  • Heath benefits of sex

Sorry for the rant. Stay sexy spoonies. 


17 thoughts on “Recovering: A Rant

  1. No need to apologize. I don’t know one person with a chronic illness who doesn’t wish for a penny for each time someone’s tried to tell them about their illness, about how to manage the pain or ‘cure’ themselves. We’d all be rich. Keep fighting!

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      1. I can write strangers off as being jerks but when someone close reveals their cluelessness or passes judgement masked by good intentions, it’s hard to ignore. I know they can’t possibly understand how I feel. I often don’t but a little compassion goes a long way.

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  2. We are with you, both where we have good days and bad, but also where we have these “well-meaning” friends (and family!) who just don’t get it. Be strong in your self and let the rest just pass through you.

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  3. Sexy – just for short; I LOVED THIS POST I laughed um i laughed my, um um YOU KNOW!!

    “I am a fighter. I always will be so if you feel the need to pass judgment, you can fuck off. You’re not better than me because you’re not in constant pain. ”

    If you’re not opposed to hunting read my recent post titled something like “grace and deliverance”, lol yeah I have had full on chronic Fibromyalgia for 14 years! ands I have suffered tons and tons rejection, abandonment, loneliness, and the whole judgment pile of beeeeeeep beeeep!

    PEOPLE HAVE NO CLUE and THEY have no clue that they are clueless!
    For me that is compounded by the fact that I am a guy with what is erroneously deemed a woman’s disease!

    I fight all the Fibro devils every day! It would be nice to have –one true friend-

    God Bless you S-A-M

    SAM try binaural beats for the headaches they WORK
    just use headphones or earbuds


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    1. Thank you! I am glad you enjoyed it. I have used binaural beats during some meditations. I just assumed it was the relaxation that was helping so that’s good to know! I will check that post out too. 🙂


  4. Don’t get me started on what people say and do to others with chronic illness! Everyone who doesn’t have your/my problems has the answer…it’s like people who don;t have children who always know what you should and shouldn’t be doing with them!
    There always seems to be two types of people around me…those who think all doctors are terrible and who want to do you harm and those who blindly follow whatever some self-important quake will tell them. Everyone has to take their health into their own hands and if sometime in your life you find a medical person who actually LISTENS to you, uses common sense and is of help, take what you can get.After so many years, I have one….but I am always on my guard and use my own judgement.
    I wish you the best, always.

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