After Sex Self Care

After Sex Self Care

Sex can be a workout! It is just as easy to pull a muscle or strain yourself during sex as it is when you’re out running or strength training. This means warming up and cooling down should be a part of your sex romps not just your workout routine. This is especially true for those of you with fibromyalgia and other chronic illnesses. Minimize your chances of getting hurt with these self care tips, after sex.

My Routine
1.)Stretching or Yoga- Helps realign the body and maintain flexibility.
2.)Foam Roller or Massage- Releases tension and relaxes the muscles.
3.)Bubble Bath- Warms the muscles, relaxes both body and mind. Like you needed a reason to take a bubble bath. 😉

For best results, try implementing at least two of the three in my list. I highly recommend the foam roller. It’s like giving yourself a deep tissue massage. It can be painful at first but the more you use it, the less painful it becomes. Then, eventually you’ll thank me! I use mine after every workout, shower/ bath and of course, after sex. It’s very important you only use the foam roller on warm muscles! So, don’t use it before sex or before you workout. Save it for last!
I ordered my foam roller from It was under twenty bucks and it came with DVD instructions for foam rolling the entire body. There are many different types to choose from so go with what works best for you. The standard travel size foam roller works best for me be because it’s easy to store. My cats love to tear up that foam so I have to keep it tucked in a closet when I am not using it.
To learn more about foam rolling, mosey on over to this site. It happens to be where I got today’s featured image and it is bursting with great information.

Stay limber, be sexy!

Sleepless and Second Guessing

Sleepless and Second Guessing

I’m starting to wonder if I am going to be able to do it all. I reluctantly cancelled an easy and fun sub job today because I got out of bed crying this morning. My outfit was already picked out, lunch was made and I’d done the job before so there was nothing to worry about. Except, all the shit that’s been stressing me out so much lately, my pain levels are through the roof. Right now, I am working two jobs and being begrudgingly chauffeured to both of them. Next month, I’ll be adding school to the mix. Luckily, it’s all online. I am relocating to another apartment complex between Christmas and New Years. I know I desperately need the rest but I also need the money that I am losing out on today. Missing work is almost as stressful as going on an achy, rainy day like today.

I was really excited about returning to school and the direction my life was headed until very recently. It’s like I’ve been in a bubble up in the clouds until now and it just burst. Even my body feels like it was cast out of the sky violently, like a kite struck by lightning. I am sorry this post isn’t full of the holiday spirit like it should be this time of year. I am just not in a very good place right now. I am still excited about school but not necessarily about my life right now and I know I have a lot of work ahead of me. Posts like this aren’t supposed to come until after Christmas when the thought of the new year starts making people feel inadequate and unaccomplished.

I know my body hates me because I sweat when I am cold. I sweat and shiver, toss and turn all night. Then when it comes time to get out of bed to start the day, I’m as stiff and brittle as a dry-rotted log. All I can do is cuddle up and think the typical thoughts one can have in the middle of the night. Alone and in pain, they are hardly positive. So, the longer I am awake at night, the higher my anxiety climbs. By morning, I am a nervous wreck and likely vomiting. Point being, once the stress creeps in, it causes a dizzying downward spiral that I can’t seem to slow down much less, escape.

I am taking a day for self-care today and I am trying not to feel guilty about canceling the substitute assignment that I agreed to. I know I’ve probably let some people down and inconvenienced them. Not to mention the fact that I have not had much time to devote to substituting this month which will leave me low on cash later. I will take a bubble bath and try to meditate but it won’t keep me from worrying or being broke. I will stretch and use my foam roller but it won’t just magically make all my tension disappear. I will read and try to nap but I don’t think it will leave me feeling rejuvenated or any more ready to take on the day tomorrow because I don’t know how to cope with all this stress. I mean, I’ve gotten better. I don’t have as many panic attacks as I used to but I still can’t seem to keep my worries from manifesting physically. I’m never sure if I’m making the right decisions. How happy am I supposed to be exactly? What is reasonable?

A Homemade Spoonie Christmas

A Homemade Spoonie Christmas

Recently, I made a homemade salt scrub. It was so easy and I’m so happy with the results. I have always wanted to try making something like that but it always seemed a bit intimidating because I’d never done it before. I didn’t want to go out and spend a bunch of money on ingredients and then make a mistake or dislike the finished product but, it was cheap, easy and I loved it!
So, I’m sharing the recipe because this scrub would make the perfect gift for anyone on your list. It’s customizable too!

This is my finished product.
This is my finished product.

For gifting I would suggest smaller containers and maybe adding a little glitter for aesthetic purposes. Tie a ribbon around it and call it Snowball Scrub. Feel free to use the my featured graphic as a label.

Snowball Scrub

You will need:

Coconut Oil

Epsom Salt

Essential Oils

Small Jars

Measuring cups

The ratio for oil to salt is 2:1 so for every cup of oil you will add 1/2 a cup of salt. If you are using small jars, you may just need 1/2 a cup of oil and 1/4 cup of salt. I would make each batch individually so you can customize it with different oils. Remember, the smaller the batch, the fewer drops of essential oil you’ll need. That is powerful stuff!

So, line up your jars and pour 1 cup of oil into each jar. Coconut oil starts to liquify at about 76 degrees so if your house is cool, you may need to stir the oil to loosen it up a bit. Use whatever brand of coconut oil you prefer. You can use any oil of your choice actually but make sure it is good for the skin and won’t clog pores.

Other great carrier oils:

Avocado- Great for skin

Almond- Soothing

Sunflower- Easily absorbed

Grapeseed- Non-greasy

This is the coconut oil I used. It is one of the least expensive at the grocery store and it has so many uses!
This is the coconut oil I used. It is one of the least expensive at the grocery store and it has so many uses!

Next, you will add the salt. For 1 cup of oil we add 1/2 cup of salt. You can get salt with essential oils already in them and just skip the next step or you can add a few more drops of oil to make it more soothing or relaxing. Of course, you can buy plain Epsom salt for ultimate customization but, I just used what I had.

This is what I had and it worked just fine.
This is what I had and it worked just fine.

Now, it is time to add the oils! For our mixture, we can add up to 10 drops of oil. The Epsom salt I used was already infused with rosemary and mint to I added some eucalyptus oil because it is an anti-inflammatory and lavender oil because it is a relaxant. Two things a fibro fighter always needs! I keep it in a jar with the lid screwed on tight so that when I open it, the smell fills the steamy shower.

Other great essential oils to add:

Chamomile- Relaxant

Peppermint- Anti-inflammatory

Frankincense- Soothes skin

Orange- Revitalizing

Geranium- PMS and Nerve pain

Lemon- Detoxifying

These oils are from and I love them!
These oils are from and I love them!

Happy gifting!

Too Busy, Too Sore, Too Much Coke

Too Busy, Too Sore, Too Much Coke

Well, I started my new job and it’s been going better than I expected. It has even motivated me to go back to school. Working full time is really draining though. I’m sore and cranky and drinking Cokes to make it through the day. I’ve been dieting for a week now and my weight hasn’t dropped an ounce. I still have not been able to join the gym. I’m overly stressed because of the holidays, work and not having a car. In just a few weeks I’ll add studying to the top of the list. I’m still not done Christmas shopping and I’m low on funds, as usual. I guess it’s just another December.

I am rather excited and anxious about finishing my degree though! I’ve decided to attend WGU Texas because of the accelerated program and low cost. Also, it’s more convenient since I lack adequate transportation. I’ve decided to pursue a B.A. in Special Education. WGU has an award winning program for the teacher’s college. This degree will bring me one step closer to my ultimate dream of becoming a librarian and help get me out of debt. I’ve dropped out of three Bachelor’s programs already so this time I wanted to be sure I knew what I wanted to do before I started racking up more student loans. I’ve fallen in love with the special education classes that I’ve substituted in but with this degree I’ll have the opportunity to become licensed as an elementary education teacher able to work with students up to eighth grade or as a special education teacher that can work with students at any grade level. It’s nice to know I’ll have options. If I work hard and study, I should finish in no time because so many of my credits transferred. I’ve already received credit for most of my first (or third, depending on how you look at it) year classes.

So, there hasn’t been much time for blogging or any creativity beyond the crafts I help complete as a Nanny, really. I’ve got plenty of half written drafts and graphics that need tweaking but I’ve also got unread books and not-yet-beaten video games I received for my birthday way back in October. I’m sure there are friends I’ve been neglecting and grandparents that need calling too. I’m so stressed out as it is. Stress is like poison. When I get stressed out I can’t sleep, my headaches get worse and I can’t remember shit. That’s what I’m most worried about with classes starting soon, stress affecting my memory. The brain fog is one of the worst byproducts of fibromyalgia. I just feel so helpless when I can’t process what’s happening or remember specific things. How is a spoonie like me supposed to get it all done? I feel like I need a nap just from taking a bubble bath and composing this post!

Purple with a Purpose

Purple with a Purpose

I’ve never been able to identify with a color before. I always thought blue was my favorite color because I had a lot of blue stuff. I look good in blue. With my fibromyalgia diagnosis, I was also assigned a color. Purple. Now I’m part of the purple ribbon club along with many others. People that are suffering, coping and trying to raise awareness. Purple isn’t just for fibromyalgia.

People wear purple ribbons for attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, adoption, alpha-1, alzheimer’s disease, anti-gay bullying, Arnold-Chiari malformation, breastfeeding, victims of 9/11, child abuse, craniosynostosis, crohn’s disease, animal abuse, cystic fibrosis, domestic violence, dyscalculia, eating disorder awareness, epilepsy, father’s rights, parental rights, fibromyalgia, gastrointestinal cancer, gynecologic cancer, hidradenitis suppurativa, homelessness, huntington’s disease, International Women’s Day, loss, lupus, macular degeneration, migraine, multiple system atrophy, overdose prevention, Pagan Pride Day, pancreatic cancer, porphyria, pediatric hemiplegia and pediatric stroke, pulmonary hypertension, religious tolerance, rett syndrome, rumination syndrome, suicide prevention, sarcoidosis, thyroid cancer, ulcerative colitis, wildland firefighters, Workers’ Memorial Day.
This extensive, alphabetical list was provided by Wikipedia.

Many of these people are spoonies as well. Many are not but we are all still united by our purple ribbons. Show your support and help raise awareness.
I do it because I AM fibromyalgia. It has changed me. I’ve grown and adapted. My chronic illness is part of me. It has made me who I am today and I’m not sorry for that. I am proud. I am a warrior and so are you!

Stay strong, be sexy!